backup exec 2010 upgrade failing

upgrading from 11d to 2010, and the install is failing, i see messge on the screen that indicates it cannot contct the sql sever on my exchange 2003 box.

is it wanting me to uninstall sql on the exchange server?

here is the message:

"setup will be unable to detach the BEDB database from SQL server from Exchangemailserver because it has failed to establish a connection.  if you choose to continue with the symantec backup exec  2010 removal, you will have to manually detach  the BEDB database from SQL server Exchangemailserver"

after this, I am still left with 11d backup exec installed.